Sorry I Pushed You Away

Age 13,  Kazakhstan

I’m from Kazakhstan, Almaty. It’s a very beautiful city surrounded by mountains from the other world.

I am thirteen, and here my story begins.

I fell in love, or I thought, six mounths ago.
His name… uhhh… let’s call him V, ok?
So, V lived far away from me, but we chat and call each other often.
I knew it wouldn’t be  forever.

One day, when I felt AAAABSOLUTELY bad, I told him to go away, I said that he’s a problem, I told him that he’s awful and that I don’t need him. I made a mistake.

You know what?

He left.

It’s already two months after that situation but I still miss him.

So, huh, I’d like to tell you one thing:

NEVER TELL SOMEONE WHO YOU LOVE SOMETHING THAT’S NOT TRUE!
DON’T ASK ‘EM TO GO AWAY IF YOU LOVE THEM!
DON’T MAKE THAT MISTAKE!

What did you learn?

Sometimes we make wrong choices. Before you do something, think about what can happen because of your choice.

 

Response from IHYFM:

Thanks for sharing! Everyone says things that they don’t mean at some point in their lives. We all make mistakes. Sometimes it’s misplaced anger, sometimes it’s because we’re truly angry with that person, sometimes it’s even justified, but said in a way that causes harm instead of being helpful!

It’s clear you’ve learned a lot from this. If this person is truly a friend, then he will forgive you and will allow you to talk it out. If he’s not a true friend, then it’s good that you know it now and promise yourself that you’ll be more careful of others and of yourself in the future.

Words hurt. We know that. And it’s hard for people to distinguish between what you really mean and what’s underneath what you’re saying sometimes.

Forgive yourself for being human!

Also, when someone says something hurtful to you, maybe give that person the same curtesy? Maybe that person is saying something because they’re having a really bad day, not because they truly mean it. That’s the power of forgiveness.

When we know that we will never be perfect, we can’t expect it from others, either. So be gentle with one another! Kind, compassionate. Yes, we all get hurt, but give that person who hurt you the benefit of the doubt. HOWEVER, if it’s a pattern, end it!!! You can’t change another person. That person has to change him or herself!